Sometimes there are certain situations that needs to be evaluated and other times the situations needs to be just pushed to the side. Example of pushing to the side would be, "I am tired, I do not want to be here at Graduating practice; therefore, I am leaving." Of course, I don't ever foresee that happening, but that would be a situation that would be called into order that they would say, "The consequence for you leaving Graduation practice, forfeits you attending the Graduation Ceremony."
Yet, that was NOT the circumstances for my daughter, Katarina.
For the last few weeks her grandfather became very sick. It became with Pneumonia. On Thursday, June 6th for the 2nd time he was going to Asheville. This time being transported by Ambulance.
I got home late that evening, was able to get a little sleep and then on June 7th, My mother called me very upset, crying, yelling, they are calling a Code Blue... They are calling a Code Blue. I told her that I had to get the children and that I was coming. I would be there!
We finally arrived at Little John Coliseum, searching to find her, finally Gabriel was able to find her and while I waited up on top of the stairway, she came running up with tears streaking her face. She kept saying that he couldn't be gone... Then she told me that she wouldn't be able to walk with her class because she left the practice. I told her to gather herself and I walked down the stairs to speak to a lady that was directing the Graduates.
I explained to her that Katarina's Grandfather was in ICU in Asheville and that he had Coded once, but at the moment he was stable. That I needed to get there because we were unsure how long he was going to be stable. She told me that if Katarina "left" that she wouldn't be able to walk. I asked her how much longer and she said only about 10 more minutes because they had a few rows left, then they needed to practice walking out, and then walking back in.
I waved for Katarina to come back, with tears streaming down her face, she went back to her seat because I told her that it was only going to be about 10 more minutes and her Hank would want her not to miss out on walking with her class.
25 minutes later.... she was done... 35 minutes fighting threw the traffic and children rushing to get out... we were finally heading to Asheville.
We arrived in Asheville... 15 minutes to late. Yes... He passed away before my children could say good bye to him. 15 minutes!!!!! How could a school system be so heartless to allow someone to stay in practice when they were aware that a grandfather was on life support and had already coded once?
How could a school system be so uncaring, non understanding, unfeeling, to NOT look at the circumstances and tell her to go? How could they threaten saying, if you leave you don't walk?? It wasn't like she was going to go home just because she was bored or had to something else to do...
Yet, with tears streaking down her face, she continued at practice... because they weren't going to let her walk with her class! Yes, she walked and proudly. However, because of our "School system rules" Katarina and her siblings were unable to say Good Bye to a loved one... because we were 15 minutes to late.
Our Superintendent needs to re-evaluate and evaluate what is right, morally and ethically right. How many others have experienced this same situation or something similar? Tears running down her face to practice... and could not leave to say good-bye. How can Our school system justify that? If you leave... even though you were here on time, you won't walk with your class.... "WOW!"