If this is a candidate that you would like to vote for then maybe you need to know how she really feels about victims/survivors of abuse.
This is what you need to know. When Wendy Golten was being put in the hot chair, instead of trying to fight fair.. what did she do? She brought up about my abuse that I had to endure with my father. And it isn't like anything that I am ashamed of because after all, what have I done? I let everyone know that everything that is about my past is in my blog. And for Ms. Golten to go into my blog.. takes bits and pieces out and twist some of the things that I have said.. just shows how desperate she truly is!
However, I wasn't going to address these personal issues or the accusations that she has done because she does not have documentations for things that she is accusing. But, this is a little more to do with victims and I need to speak directly to YOU!
What Ms. Golten has done by asking the question, "Would you explain what cooperation, wining and dining entailed..." And this is something that I have to address.
First let me explain this to all the survivors of abuse... It is NEVER your fault! EVER! Do not let or allow someone like this make you think twice about what happened and that you deserved it.. because you NEVER deserve to be raped.. you NEVER deserve to be violated in anyway. No matter what the circumstances are or what people like Ms. Golten says, you NEVER did anything wrong.
Let's address some of the things that happen.. there are times and there are stories that you will hear when a woman states or even a man will state that his body reacted. You will hear that they have responded by having an orgasm or that he ejaculated, even when their mind was screaming NO PLEASE STOP. Understand this.. this still does NOT make this YOUR fault! It is simply because your physical body responded to the touches and the advances that you did not want. Does not mean that you enjoyed it and does not mean that you wanted it!
Most of us are aware of things like domestic violence when a man or a woman is so abusive in the relationship that they will bring flowers, gifts, and things that will make them feel better about themselves because just a few hours prior they had either physically, sexually, and emotionally abused you. Them buying you gifts or taking you out to eat does NOT mean that you wanted it. It is an emotional rollercoaster of gifts, saying nice things to you, and we think that maybe that was the last time and it will never happen again... Until it does!
When you are a child and you are raised in this over and over in your life cooperating does not mean that are wanting your abuser to come into your bedroom and rape you that night. For me, there was times that I didn't want to be hit over and over again.. and there was times that I did lay there and my let my father do what he wanted to do with me... does NOT mean that I wanted him to do those things.. just because I cooperated.. it means that I was surviving another night of being raped by my father.
There isn't a moment in my life that I never wished that my father wouldn't love me for being his daughter and nothing more. So those times that my father was nice to me.. when he brought me gifts, said nice things to me... took me out to eat.. etc... was the times that I thought maybe this would be a new beginning for me and that my father would love me as a father is suppose to love me.. not rape me over and over again... and you know what???
It doesn't make it where I wanted it.. doesn't make me a bad person.. and surely doesn't justify what he did to me. I did ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong. I was a victim of my father's abuse. So whether he bought me gifts or whether he promised me that he would NEVER do it again.. I was a child! He was the adult.
And no matter who.. like people like Ms. Golten says or does.. just shows that she just as sick in the head as the ones that abuse people. And even though Ms. Golten would like to appear like she cares about our city or the people in our city, then you need to be aware that if you make her angry that no matter what her true colors of what she thinks really comes into play.
And the way that Ms. Golten thinks about survivors is obvious! Ms. Golten believes if you have been bought gifts, that if you were cooperative, that if you were wine and dined.. then YOU DESERVED TO BE RAPED!
KNOW THE FACTS.. Do you want someone like Ms. Golten representing YOU????
This is what you need to know. When Wendy Golten was being put in the hot chair, instead of trying to fight fair.. what did she do? She brought up about my abuse that I had to endure with my father. And it isn't like anything that I am ashamed of because after all, what have I done? I let everyone know that everything that is about my past is in my blog. And for Ms. Golten to go into my blog.. takes bits and pieces out and twist some of the things that I have said.. just shows how desperate she truly is!
However, I wasn't going to address these personal issues or the accusations that she has done because she does not have documentations for things that she is accusing. But, this is a little more to do with victims and I need to speak directly to YOU!
What Ms. Golten has done by asking the question, "Would you explain what cooperation, wining and dining entailed..." And this is something that I have to address.
First let me explain this to all the survivors of abuse... It is NEVER your fault! EVER! Do not let or allow someone like this make you think twice about what happened and that you deserved it.. because you NEVER deserve to be raped.. you NEVER deserve to be violated in anyway. No matter what the circumstances are or what people like Ms. Golten says, you NEVER did anything wrong.
Let's address some of the things that happen.. there are times and there are stories that you will hear when a woman states or even a man will state that his body reacted. You will hear that they have responded by having an orgasm or that he ejaculated, even when their mind was screaming NO PLEASE STOP. Understand this.. this still does NOT make this YOUR fault! It is simply because your physical body responded to the touches and the advances that you did not want. Does not mean that you enjoyed it and does not mean that you wanted it!
Most of us are aware of things like domestic violence when a man or a woman is so abusive in the relationship that they will bring flowers, gifts, and things that will make them feel better about themselves because just a few hours prior they had either physically, sexually, and emotionally abused you. Them buying you gifts or taking you out to eat does NOT mean that you wanted it. It is an emotional rollercoaster of gifts, saying nice things to you, and we think that maybe that was the last time and it will never happen again... Until it does!
When you are a child and you are raised in this over and over in your life cooperating does not mean that are wanting your abuser to come into your bedroom and rape you that night. For me, there was times that I didn't want to be hit over and over again.. and there was times that I did lay there and my let my father do what he wanted to do with me... does NOT mean that I wanted him to do those things.. just because I cooperated.. it means that I was surviving another night of being raped by my father.
There isn't a moment in my life that I never wished that my father wouldn't love me for being his daughter and nothing more. So those times that my father was nice to me.. when he brought me gifts, said nice things to me... took me out to eat.. etc... was the times that I thought maybe this would be a new beginning for me and that my father would love me as a father is suppose to love me.. not rape me over and over again... and you know what???
It doesn't make it where I wanted it.. doesn't make me a bad person.. and surely doesn't justify what he did to me. I did ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong. I was a victim of my father's abuse. So whether he bought me gifts or whether he promised me that he would NEVER do it again.. I was a child! He was the adult.
And no matter who.. like people like Ms. Golten says or does.. just shows that she just as sick in the head as the ones that abuse people. And even though Ms. Golten would like to appear like she cares about our city or the people in our city, then you need to be aware that if you make her angry that no matter what her true colors of what she thinks really comes into play.
And the way that Ms. Golten thinks about survivors is obvious! Ms. Golten believes if you have been bought gifts, that if you were cooperative, that if you were wine and dined.. then YOU DESERVED TO BE RAPED!
KNOW THE FACTS.. Do you want someone like Ms. Golten representing YOU????
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